A friend recently forwarded an email to me titled "The Invisible Mother," a short essay comparing the tireless and often thankless job of a mother to the builders of Europe's great cathedrals. Both give their whole lives for a work they will never see finished, both make sacrifices and expect no credit, and both are fueled in their passion by the faith that the eyes of God see every detail. The writer of the essay was inspired by the thought that our endless efforts in motherhood, invisible as they may seem, are worth it and can make an enriching life.
For many of us, the way we choose to hold our invisibility at bay is by creating something tangible. For me, my days often end with knitting - my love of fiber and the need to do something relaxing end up producing something I can hold and look at. Nobody will know how many times I swept under the high chair that day, or how many toys I picked up, or how many times I tried to coax a "please" or "more" or "sorry" out of my 5 year old. But a darling, handmade infant hat? That you can see.
I start new projects every day, and my 10 year old does the same. In this process of creating (and yes, often not finishing our projects!) we connect with each other and a bigger picture of ourselves in the process. My plan for this blog is to share the projects that excite me and bring some accessible proof of my existence in this invisible world of mothering!
So, this blog is dedicated to the mothers out there whose days are filled with the minutia of tasks that build our children and our families. I often tell people that I haven't decided what I want to be when I grow up. But for now, I am the builder of a great cathedral. With every shoelace tied, lunch packed, and forehead kissed, I build.
And I can hardly wait to create something new...
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Thursday afternoon during Brynn's nap and while I waited for mom to arrive, I got out my new pinking shears and decided to test them on the caballero fabric. They are super sharp, and very satisfying to cut with! I cut the hunk of fabric into 3 pieces (one for each girl) and used the pinking shears to go all the way around the outside so they won't fray at the edges. I used Rowan's Daisy tunic as a template for the neck hole, and cut that out as well. Then I cut 1" fringes along the bottom edges of all 3, to help give it a little flair. It turned out to be a much easier project than I thought - and no sewing! I also fashioned 3 black fabric tie-belts to use, but once Rowan tried on the poncho we decided the belts were a hindrance and just didn't look good. My little brown-eyed caballero is very happy with the finished product!
Friday morning after Rowan left for school, Mom and I got to work on Grace's hair. Well, I should say that I explained what Rowan wanted and mom figured out a way to do it. Rowan's instructions were that she wanted Grace to have a ponytail in back, with some straggling hair coming down the front. And with the orange yarn, of course. Mom cut some long strands of yarn and laid them over Grace's head so that she could stitch them on right at the seam along Grace's scalp. Once she was done stitching, the layer hanging over Grace's face got flipped over to hide the stitches, and make a double thick lock of hair, which could be fashioned into a ponytail. As promised, we left a few strands in front on the sides.
Grace is now completed, and it was a wonderful way to spend the day together! And she looks just about how Rowan imagined her, so all is right with the world. :)